S05E095, Brain Management, Andy B 2 Minute Video
Being busy can be a great feeling. It can make us think we’re doing better than others we may meet in our life. But, the problem with being busy is that busyness can soon become just the next thing on a to do list. And that is never good when it comes to the relationships that matter most to us.
One of the most important words in the English language is the word “No”. It’s a word I actively encourage people I meet to use in their own lives because – before too long – we’ve not said no enough and our brains can be overwhelmed just failing to keep up with all our responsibilities and activities.
The idea of setting priorities in our place of work might seem fairly obvious. But, how good are you at protecting that which matters most? Your marriage, your friendships, your time and relationship with God, your children?
If you’re struggling to make decisions it might be nothing more than the fact you’re so utterly overwhelmed that you can’t actually process the thoughts needed.
So, for your sake, and the people in your life, keep checking in on the things you’re involved with, that aren’t essential, and ask yourself if you need to keep doing them.
And don’t forget that saying no means someone else gets the chance to say yes.
Just a thought...
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[00:00:00] So another Andy B Two Minute Video. And the astute among you may realize this is Episode 95. And I do a 100 Episodes for a Season of Andy B, so we've got 5 more to go. So actually, yeah, 5 more to go. Right, 6 actually.
[00:00:23] Brain Management. Where are you overloaded? Where is it you think I just can't cope?
[00:00:30] One time we'd come out of having a business and we had all sorts of troubles as we're trying to extricate ourselves, from a business that had been forced to close due to the recession. Loads of debt, loads of problems. And one of the things I really struggled with is we had all these different accounts for phone companies.
[00:00:44] And they kept moving from company to company and I just, I couldn't cope. So a friend of ours took all these things and got the right account numbers and put it in order for us. It was one too many things for me to try and sort out with my little brain.
[00:00:57] When I think about brain management, I think about [00:01:00] those things that steal our ability to process basic cognitive functions like going to bed, getting up, eating the food at the right time, those kind of things.
[00:01:12] But when we think about brain management, also we need to know there are things in our lives that we don't need to be doing.
[00:01:18] Do you feel like you're too busy? I've never got time for what I should be doing, and I'm, I'm rushing from here, I'm rushing to there.
[00:01:24] I met this one teacher. It was such a tragic thing. I says, all right, so you're gonna go home for dinner now to with your husband. She was excited. And she said, Oh, no, that'd be hours yet. Oh, what you excited about? Oh, I, I get to sit on the boot of the car. She was being sarcastic. I hadn't picked it up. I get to sit on the boot of the car while the kids are at clubs, and that's, that's when I have my dinner every night. Five nights a week.
[00:01:43] So she finishes school and takes her kids to all these clubs and she, she was really miserable because she was so, so busy thinking about others she wasn't even concerned for herself, and it wasn't in a positive, good, sacrificial way!
[00:01:59] Brain [00:02:00] management. Where is it? You need to stop doing stuff. Where are you thinking? I just can't cope. There's too much going on. I need to let go of these things over here. So these are important.
[00:02:09] There are things we must do. There are things we need to do. There are things we should do. And things we could do. And you could go on and on. But it comes down to prioritizing.
[00:02:18] What is it that you must do?
[00:02:21] What you like to do isn't what you must do. And what you must do probably isn't what you like to do. But there are things we must do and you can work down the list of what you need to do.
[00:02:31] Brain management. Think about where you are in your life. Are you too busy? There are things you can't cope with. Maybe your brain's just overwhelmed by too much going on and you just need to set some, set some stuff down.
[00:02:44] Just a thought.
Andy B, 03/07/2023