S05E069, When It’s Gone, It’s Gone! Andy B 2 Minute Video
It’s a great feeling when you finally fix something yourself; there is an immense sense of satisfaction when you hear that final ‘click’ as something goes perfectly back into its proper place.
I’ve seen that happen a few times, and it’s always very satisfying!
In life there are some things that we simply can’t put right. It doesn’t matter how hard we try – we just can’t make fix it or repair it.
When we lost our daughter she was just 11 weeks old. There was nothing I, or we, could do to prevent her death. It was utterly out of our control and it took me many years to finally work through that pain and loss and before I was ready to allow my wife and I to consider trying for another baby.
There are times when saying sorry is simply no longer an option, or even appropriate, to say.
In those times we have a single, healthy, choice to make. And it is the same choice whether it’s a video we’ve recorded, and subsequently lost, or the fracturing of a friendship or relationship.
That one healthy choice? It’s to let go!
When we lost our daughter, it took me years to reach the point of being able to let go. Sometimes life ‘stuff’ happens and we find ourselves utterly unprepared.
But I had to accept that I had lost my video, and I had to accept that I had lost my daughter.
I’m not being glib, or fickle, here - losing a video is not the same as losing a daughter! But it is the same action that we need to take on both counts – we need to choose to let go.
Just a thought...
Andy B
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[00:00:00] So another Andy B Two Minute Video. Now, my plan for this video was a video that I recorded two weeks ago, nearly, while we were supporting Konnect Radio at Spring Harvest in Minehead. And, in our bedroom, on the first day I recorded a video. And that's what you should be seeing right now.
[00:00:30] However, through the joys of technological stuff it's gone missing. It's not on my computer. I found it on my phone, but I can't access it. So I've had to just give up and delete it. I can't restore it. I can only see a ghost image of what should be. So this video that I wrote has gone.
[00:00:50] Now there's two ways you can deal with this. One. I can get really frustrated and think, but it's a really good video and I need to share this message, and it's really important and getting really frustrated with the technology 'cos it's failed, and [00:01:00] what's it gone wrong?
[00:01:01] Or I can think, do you know what? It's gone! It's not the end of the world. And actually let's move on from there. And it makes a great topic for my Andy B Two Minute Video today, because some things we have to let go.
[00:01:17] There are some things we can't fix. They're gone. It's done. If somebody dies, tragically, and we haven't said sorry to them, we have to deal with that guilt with that reality. There are some things that we can do nothing about except let them go, which is a good thing.
[00:01:36] If you're struggling. Why do I need to forgive someone for what they've done? Well, you're not forgiving them to make them feel better. You're forgiving them to set yourself free from guilt.
[00:01:46] We can't be responsible for their reaction to our apology, or their reaction to what we do wrong, whether it's deliberate, malicious, or just accidental. But we are responsible for our actions. And when we apologize, we're [00:02:00] we're letting the, we're letting them off.
[00:02:03] And what that does is it releases us of bitterness and guilt, which means that we can move forward.
[00:02:09] In life there's always gonna be stuff we've just got to let go of. We can't fix it or, salvage it, or repair it, or restore it.
[00:02:18] God can always restore and redeem.
[00:02:22] We can't. We're human.
[00:02:24] So is there something in your life that you are clinging desperately onto that you just need to let go of? 'Cos God's got something else, and if you stop clinging onto that thing, there's something else over here that he could give you, that's far better for you for today. What have you gotta let go of?
[00:02:48] Just a thought
Andy B, 24/04/2023